How To Tell If Your Spouse Is Cheating
A very interesting 'How To Tell If Your Spouse Is Cheating' article below, I hope it helps in some way.
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HOW TO TELL IF YOUR SPOUSE IS CHEATING AND WHAT TO DO ABOUT IT by Peter Dougan
How to tell if your spouse is cheating on you? Unfortunately the clues are not really that obvious nor are they very reliable. If your spouse is being very careful it will be very difficult to tell if your spouse is cheating.
If you suspect that your spouse is cheating, then take the time to come up with a plan and do some investigating on your own. If you have a gut instinct that he/she is cheating, 9 out of 10 times you will be right. That feeling will be there for a reason, don't ignore it, check it out. If you suspect that your feelings are correct then here is how to tell if your spouse is cheating.
1. Pay attention to your spouse's behavior. Are they suddenly buying a lot of new clothes? New undergarments of a different style? New perfume or cologne? Do they spend an unusual time in front of the mirror, changed hairstyle or grooming habits?
2. Look for physical signs. The obvious lipstick on the collar, also look for bruises or scratches on the back or shoulders. Does your spouse's laundry smell like men's cologne or woman's perfume? Check their laundry daily and if you can, check their bare back and shoulders every night after they are asleep.
3. Have their driving habits changed? Does the car need gas more often than before? Monitor the odometer closely to see if they are putting a lot of unexplained miles on the car.
4. Monitor the time they leave for work and come home. Keep a note book and record everything, this should enable you to establish a pattern. If your spouse says that they are working late, check the pay stub for overtime to verify.
5. There may be unusual changes in their usual routines or habits. They may want to be with their "guy or girl friends" more often. And if you offer to go with them they will have all kinds of excuses why you can't go.
If you use the methods explained above to find out how to tell if your spouse is cheating on you and you find that they are cheating, what do you do next? First, don't panic, stay calm, you don't want them to know that you know. This can be really hard but you should treat your spouse the same as you always have. Be an observer, let him/her show you their cheating ways and give them enough time to collect some hard evidence.
If your spouse is cheating, do you have a plan of what to do next? You should think about what you want. Do you want a divorce, a separation or do you want reconciliation? You should know exactly what you want before you confront them with the evidence. If you have done your work properly beforehand you should be in control of the situation and hopefully the outcome. If you are unsure, please consult a family lawyer or professional investigator.
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How To Tell If Your Spouse Is Cheating
Friday, April 27, 2007
Monday, April 09, 2007
How To Tell If Your Spouse Is Cheating
An interesting article below about, How To Tell If Your Spouse Is Cheating, if your spouse is cheating you need to know. If your spouse is cheating on you, be sure before you accuse, just in case they're not! A cheating spouse will always leave signs of cheating, you just need to investigate and be sure.
Steven
How To Tell If Your Spouse Is Cheating
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How To Catch A Cheating Spouse: Possible Indications Of A Cheating Spouse
How can you tell if your husband/wife is cheating on you? Will you hire a private investigator and make him/her rich? Will you buy the next popular surveillance equipment to spy on your spouse? Will you stay calm and take a good look at the facts? Here's a list of "Signs" of a cheating spouse that you should pay attention to before doing anything else.
Cheating Sign #1: You should know your spouse more than anyone else. Is he/she more affectionate lately? At the beginning of an affair people feel guilty and show more affection than usual, towards their spouses.
Cheating Sign #2: Cheating spouses might lose their interest in everyday activities like taking kids to school or spending time with them, taking care of the garden etc.
Cheating Sign #3: Unexpected sexual requests. Cheating spouses may demand more or less sex. If their sexual behavior suddenly changes then there's something going on.
heating Sign #4: Cheating spouses usually develop a defense mechanism. This causes their behavior towards family to change dramatically. They become more distant and cold. Many of them will start blaming others for their own mistakes.
Cheating Sign #5: Have you noticed unexplained credit card charges in your spouse's credit card? Wondering who made an unexpected withdrawal from your family bank account? Financial change is a major "cheating" sign.
Cheating Sign #6: Has your spouse become more attentive to his/her personal appearance? Does he/she suddenly buys a lot of new clothes or other beauty accessories like a new perfume/cologne? Does he/she suddenly takes frequent baths or decides to go to the gym? There must be a reason for all these changes.
Cheating Sign #7: Have you noticed perfume odors on your spouse's clothes? Have you discovered a lipstick or underwear that don't belong to your spouse? How about unexpected gifts supposedly coming from co-workers or his/her boss? These are all signs that should alarm you.
Cheating Sign #8: Does your spouse whisper on the phone? Does he/she sounds alarmed or suddenly hangs up the phone when you enter the room? Ask your spouse who was on the phone and make sure he/she told you the truth. Try to find out who called.
Cheating Sign #9: Your spouses mobile phone. Cheating spouses usually make/receive a lot of phone calls through their mobile phone (if they have one). Check out your spouse's mobile phone bill. See if there are any unexpected/unknown phone numbers. Also, take a look at the hours the phone calls took place. Are there any calls that took place right after your spouse left home for work or just before he/she returns home?
These are all signs of a cheating spouse and there are more. You should be alarmed if you notice sudden changes in your spouse's behavior but the best thing to do is to remain calm and think what will be your next step. Don't make false assumptions and don't be hasty. Have you heard of the new divorced Barbie doll? - She comes with all of Ken's stuff!
about the author
If you suspect your spouse may be cheating on you then you are about to discover what they've been doing, when they've been doing it, who they've been doing it with and a lot more by using the techniques described in this guide about how to catch a cheating spouse the easy way. There's also a free newsletter jam-packed with the hottest information to help you.
How To Tell If Your Spouse Is Cheating
Steven
How To Tell If Your Spouse Is Cheating
main article
How To Catch A Cheating Spouse: Possible Indications Of A Cheating Spouse
How can you tell if your husband/wife is cheating on you? Will you hire a private investigator and make him/her rich? Will you buy the next popular surveillance equipment to spy on your spouse? Will you stay calm and take a good look at the facts? Here's a list of "Signs" of a cheating spouse that you should pay attention to before doing anything else.
Cheating Sign #1: You should know your spouse more than anyone else. Is he/she more affectionate lately? At the beginning of an affair people feel guilty and show more affection than usual, towards their spouses.
Cheating Sign #2: Cheating spouses might lose their interest in everyday activities like taking kids to school or spending time with them, taking care of the garden etc.
Cheating Sign #3: Unexpected sexual requests. Cheating spouses may demand more or less sex. If their sexual behavior suddenly changes then there's something going on.
heating Sign #4: Cheating spouses usually develop a defense mechanism. This causes their behavior towards family to change dramatically. They become more distant and cold. Many of them will start blaming others for their own mistakes.
Cheating Sign #5: Have you noticed unexplained credit card charges in your spouse's credit card? Wondering who made an unexpected withdrawal from your family bank account? Financial change is a major "cheating" sign.
Cheating Sign #6: Has your spouse become more attentive to his/her personal appearance? Does he/she suddenly buys a lot of new clothes or other beauty accessories like a new perfume/cologne? Does he/she suddenly takes frequent baths or decides to go to the gym? There must be a reason for all these changes.
Cheating Sign #7: Have you noticed perfume odors on your spouse's clothes? Have you discovered a lipstick or underwear that don't belong to your spouse? How about unexpected gifts supposedly coming from co-workers or his/her boss? These are all signs that should alarm you.
Cheating Sign #8: Does your spouse whisper on the phone? Does he/she sounds alarmed or suddenly hangs up the phone when you enter the room? Ask your spouse who was on the phone and make sure he/she told you the truth. Try to find out who called.
Cheating Sign #9: Your spouses mobile phone. Cheating spouses usually make/receive a lot of phone calls through their mobile phone (if they have one). Check out your spouse's mobile phone bill. See if there are any unexpected/unknown phone numbers. Also, take a look at the hours the phone calls took place. Are there any calls that took place right after your spouse left home for work or just before he/she returns home?
These are all signs of a cheating spouse and there are more. You should be alarmed if you notice sudden changes in your spouse's behavior but the best thing to do is to remain calm and think what will be your next step. Don't make false assumptions and don't be hasty. Have you heard of the new divorced Barbie doll? - She comes with all of Ken's stuff!
about the author
If you suspect your spouse may be cheating on you then you are about to discover what they've been doing, when they've been doing it, who they've been doing it with and a lot more by using the techniques described in this guide about how to catch a cheating spouse the easy way. There's also a free newsletter jam-packed with the hottest information to help you.
How To Tell If Your Spouse Is Cheating
Thursday, April 05, 2007
Dealing With A Cheating Spouse
Dealing With A Cheating Spouse
There are many ways to detect an affair, if you think you have an unfaithful spouse you must do something about it, don't just leave it, hoping it will go away. If you have a cheating partnerthere are lots of ways to catch them and then confront them.
Cheating is all the same, It doesn't matter if you have a cheating husband, cheating wife, cheating boyfriend, or a cheating girlfriend, they all have the same signs of infidelity.
Below is a great article on dealing with a cheating spouse by Michael Douglas.
Dealing With A Cheating Spouse
A very good friend of mine - let me call her Shirley - told me that the day she found out that her husband was cheating on her and having an affair with a colleague, was the worst day of her life, "I've had other shocks," she told me soberly. "My younger brother dropped dead of a heart attack one day - when he was just 29. My mother was diagnosed with terminal cancer when she had had absolutely no symptoms. And I came to work one day and found a pink dismissal slip on my desk when I had been given the Employee of the Year award, just 6 months earlier. But this was the worst shock.
"The other happenings caused me great torment, but I could blame them on fate. After all, health isn't in our hands and our company was doing very badly at that time. But my husband's affair was a personal betrayal. It was a rejection of me at the most personal level." The photographs sent by a "friend who cares for you" had been a bolt from the blue because Shirley's hubby, Paul, had been - or had seemed to have been - as caring and affectionate as ever, at the time.
But in Cathy's case, she had suspected that something was wrong for some time, before she caught her husband David in a movie hall - with the daughter of a family friend when he should have been at office.
"David had been distant and indifferent for some time. Besides, I knew that he had been involved with this girl before she migrated to New Zealand and that she had come back after her marriage broke up. But perhaps I remained in denial because I can't describe how shocked and broken I felt when I saw him with her." For both Shirley and Cathy, the traumatic discovery brought anguish and stress. "The stress was because I not only had to deal with the betrayal of my husband being intimate with another woman, but I also had to maintain a facade of normalcy - for the sake of the kids and the rest of the family," explained Shirley.
When a man falls so deeply in love that he plans to leave his wife, he usually brings up the subject himself and tells his wife that he wants a divorce. But when he hides his affair, he is often just having a fling and has no intention of breaking up his home. When he is found out, he is usually terrified at the prospect of losing his kids and ostracised as an adulterer by the rest of the family.
So, almost invariably, he apologises and tells his wife that he acted without thinking, that the affair is a purely physical one with no emotional overtones or that the woman in question came on too strongly to be ignored. He then promises that he will never see the woman again and that he will be faithful to his wife for the rest of his days.
During the next few days, the broken and confused wife is badgered by her repentant husband. He begs her forgiveness, weeps and the time they are alone together, becomes agonising and unbearable for both of them. Both of them are also likely to be depressed, anxious and filled with a sense of great loss.
The nervous husband, who sees his life falling to pieces before his eyes, reminds his wife of their children and their families and tries to pressurise her into "forgiving" him. But the woman, at that time, is not able to think straight.
She is under great stress and is very vulnerable. So, there is a good chance that any decision she takes at this time, will be the wrong one!
Traumatic events like earthquakes, tsunami waves, criminal attacks and terrorist killings shatter our assumptions about our safety in the world. In a similar way, the discovery of infidelity on the part of our spouses devastates us because it shatters our basic assumption of being secure in a committed relationship. This is not the best time for us to take decisions - but a woman often tries to.
Here are some suggestions from psychiatrists, for those unfortunate enough to find themselves in this situation, on how to deal with it:
Do not take any impulsive decisions:
As has been mentioned above, no woman is, at this time, in a position to take any important or irrevocable decision. So, don't take any impulsively. Don't see your lawyer and ask him to start divorce proceedings and don't tell your husband that you'll forgive and forget either. Instead, tell your husband that you need time to come to terms with the shock that you are feeling.
Do not isolate yourself:
When we are very hurt, many of us tend to withdraw and isolate ourselves. But when we withdraw, we suppress our feelings, and suppressing feelings only results in more stress and tension. So, don't cut yourself off from people and bottle it all up. You need to talk but you should talk to the right person. In this context, the right person is your husband. So, tell him exactly how you feel. Pour it all out to him, so that he really understands.
Practise self control:
While it is true that some people tend to withdraw into themselves when they are very unhappy, many others are more extroverted or have less self-control, when they are grief-stricken. They cry their feelings out aloud and don't care who hears them. But this is not the time for such public outpourings. So, show self-control.
Don't make accusations:
You may be furious with your husband, but since the affair is out in the open, ranting and raving, accusing him of having had affairs earlier, of always having lied and caused you pain, etc, are irrelevant and useless. In fact, if you do this, you will weaken your own position because he will retaliate with accusations of his own against you.
On the other hand, showing dignity will help you to be more in control of the situation. And don't think that your hubby is getting off lightly if you don't scream and rage. Your controlled solemnity will be more impressive than wild anger and passion.
Don't ignore your health:
You may not feel like eating, exercising or even taking your medication. But pull yourself together and keep to your routine. This effort at normalcy, will spare your children a lot of fear and confusion, and also help you think straight. Major life events - and finding out that your husband has been unfaithful qualifies as one! - can raise your stress levels and blood pressure, setting the stage for heart disease.
The level of danger posed by your body's dramatic response to tension depends on how quickly you recover and this depends on how quickly you bring down your tension levels by taking care of your health.
Keep yourself busy and don't allow yourself to brood:
When our world is shattered, we sink into depression and when we are depressed, our energy levels touch rock bottom and we don't feel like doing anything. But slipping into despondency isn't going to help. You will be able to present a normal front to your children and also think clearly, if you are not too dejected.
This will happen if you keep busy and don't brood. This doesn't mean that you mustn't think. Thinking is different from brooding. When we brood, we resentfully concentrate on negative points and go over them again and again, like a record stuck in a groove.
But "thinking" is to consider all sides of a matter, coolly. Brooding won't help you, but thinking will.
Use the support system of your friends:
This is the time you really need people who are completely for you, whose eyes will fill up when yours do and whose loyalty you needn't waste time doubting - but who will not mince words, when telling you where you went wrong either.
The wonderful thing about friends is that you needn't be on your best behaviour with them. You needn't worry about what they will think of you either. In their company, you can weep, tell them things about your marriage that you wouldn't dream of telling anyone else in the world, and you needn't worry about how you look or sound either.
And you can even bring out the demons that have been tormenting you and ask them if they think that you might have weakened your marriage or even driven him into another woman's arms through your suspiciousness, all the weight you have put on, your nagging ways, a lack of interest in sex, etc.
In other words, with friends, you can let off steam, knowing that there will be no repercussions, knowing that these people are on your side. The unstinting support we get from friends increases our self-confidence and sense of self-worth. Talking things over freely and frankly also helps us get things into perspective so that we can decide what we are going to do.
Spend time with the family:
The support, sense of wellbeing and love we get from our family is different from the support system provided by our friends. The love and acceptance we get from our relatives is unquestioning and all-encompassing, but at least initially, we should not talk to family members about hubby's infidelity, as we talk about it to friends. However, we need our family at this critical juncture of our lives. Spending time with close family will definitely help us think clearly about future actions.
Don't let the children suffer: "If I ever find out that Mark has been unfaithful to me, I'll tell the children and turn them against him!" my young friend Christina told me, her voice full of passion even as she imagined the scenario. Christina loved her husband deeply, but always felt unsure of him because he was very handsome and worked in TV serials.
But though I understood that it was Christina's passionate love for Mark that made her talk like this, I knew that what she planned was very wrong. Yes, she would get back at her husband if she did what she threatened, but did she realise what she would do to her children, I wondered. Children love and need both their parents and to turn them against one of them will shake their confidence in the world and in themselves. It will make them feel abandoned and unsure of themselves, perhaps for all their days.
Once we have children, we can no longer live for ourselves. We also have to live for them. So, even if we are very angry with our spouse, we cannot let our children suffer. So, never talk against your husband, to your kids. Try to ensure that they can continue to love and respect him and that they do not have to suffer divided loyalties. If the need arises, you can tell them when they grow up.
Decide what you will do after cool thought and after discussion with your husband:
The situation you are in, isn't one that you can ignore. You have to decide how you will deal with it and what you will do. Can you forgive him? Will you continue to live with him because you have no alternative?
Do you need to be away from him for some time? Do you want to end your marriage?
Only your husband and you can decide how your marriage has been affected and whether it can survive. That depends to a great extent on the relationship you have with your husband - how much you love each other, what drove him to have the affair, and whether you can regain mutual trust, respect, confidence and love after he has betrayed your marriage. If your love for each other is strong enough, you will be ready to forgive and try to forget and he will be ready to try and make it up to you - for the rest of his life. No one can tell you what you should do because no one else can really understand how deep the wound in your heart is. But there is one thing. If you have children, you must do whatever is best for them.
Here are the most common signs of a cheating husband or the signs to know if your spouse is cheating on you and tips to help you in dealing with the signs of a cheating spouse and infidelity
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Here are the most common signs of a cheating husband or the signs to know if your spouse is cheating on you and tips to help you in dealing with the cheating partner and infidelity
There are many ways to detect an affair, if you think you have an unfaithful spouse you must do something about it, don't just leave it, hoping it will go away. If you have a cheating partnerthere are lots of ways to catch them and then confront them.
Cheating is all the same, It doesn't matter if you have a cheating husband, cheating wife, cheating boyfriend, or a cheating girlfriend, they all have the same signs of infidelity.
Below is a great article on dealing with a cheating spouse by Michael Douglas.
Dealing With A Cheating Spouse
A very good friend of mine - let me call her Shirley - told me that the day she found out that her husband was cheating on her and having an affair with a colleague, was the worst day of her life, "I've had other shocks," she told me soberly. "My younger brother dropped dead of a heart attack one day - when he was just 29. My mother was diagnosed with terminal cancer when she had had absolutely no symptoms. And I came to work one day and found a pink dismissal slip on my desk when I had been given the Employee of the Year award, just 6 months earlier. But this was the worst shock.
"The other happenings caused me great torment, but I could blame them on fate. After all, health isn't in our hands and our company was doing very badly at that time. But my husband's affair was a personal betrayal. It was a rejection of me at the most personal level." The photographs sent by a "friend who cares for you" had been a bolt from the blue because Shirley's hubby, Paul, had been - or had seemed to have been - as caring and affectionate as ever, at the time.
But in Cathy's case, she had suspected that something was wrong for some time, before she caught her husband David in a movie hall - with the daughter of a family friend when he should have been at office.
"David had been distant and indifferent for some time. Besides, I knew that he had been involved with this girl before she migrated to New Zealand and that she had come back after her marriage broke up. But perhaps I remained in denial because I can't describe how shocked and broken I felt when I saw him with her." For both Shirley and Cathy, the traumatic discovery brought anguish and stress. "The stress was because I not only had to deal with the betrayal of my husband being intimate with another woman, but I also had to maintain a facade of normalcy - for the sake of the kids and the rest of the family," explained Shirley.
When a man falls so deeply in love that he plans to leave his wife, he usually brings up the subject himself and tells his wife that he wants a divorce. But when he hides his affair, he is often just having a fling and has no intention of breaking up his home. When he is found out, he is usually terrified at the prospect of losing his kids and ostracised as an adulterer by the rest of the family.
So, almost invariably, he apologises and tells his wife that he acted without thinking, that the affair is a purely physical one with no emotional overtones or that the woman in question came on too strongly to be ignored. He then promises that he will never see the woman again and that he will be faithful to his wife for the rest of his days.
During the next few days, the broken and confused wife is badgered by her repentant husband. He begs her forgiveness, weeps and the time they are alone together, becomes agonising and unbearable for both of them. Both of them are also likely to be depressed, anxious and filled with a sense of great loss.
The nervous husband, who sees his life falling to pieces before his eyes, reminds his wife of their children and their families and tries to pressurise her into "forgiving" him. But the woman, at that time, is not able to think straight.
She is under great stress and is very vulnerable. So, there is a good chance that any decision she takes at this time, will be the wrong one!
Traumatic events like earthquakes, tsunami waves, criminal attacks and terrorist killings shatter our assumptions about our safety in the world. In a similar way, the discovery of infidelity on the part of our spouses devastates us because it shatters our basic assumption of being secure in a committed relationship. This is not the best time for us to take decisions - but a woman often tries to.
Here are some suggestions from psychiatrists, for those unfortunate enough to find themselves in this situation, on how to deal with it:
Do not take any impulsive decisions:
As has been mentioned above, no woman is, at this time, in a position to take any important or irrevocable decision. So, don't take any impulsively. Don't see your lawyer and ask him to start divorce proceedings and don't tell your husband that you'll forgive and forget either. Instead, tell your husband that you need time to come to terms with the shock that you are feeling.
Do not isolate yourself:
When we are very hurt, many of us tend to withdraw and isolate ourselves. But when we withdraw, we suppress our feelings, and suppressing feelings only results in more stress and tension. So, don't cut yourself off from people and bottle it all up. You need to talk but you should talk to the right person. In this context, the right person is your husband. So, tell him exactly how you feel. Pour it all out to him, so that he really understands.
Practise self control:
While it is true that some people tend to withdraw into themselves when they are very unhappy, many others are more extroverted or have less self-control, when they are grief-stricken. They cry their feelings out aloud and don't care who hears them. But this is not the time for such public outpourings. So, show self-control.
Don't make accusations:
You may be furious with your husband, but since the affair is out in the open, ranting and raving, accusing him of having had affairs earlier, of always having lied and caused you pain, etc, are irrelevant and useless. In fact, if you do this, you will weaken your own position because he will retaliate with accusations of his own against you.
On the other hand, showing dignity will help you to be more in control of the situation. And don't think that your hubby is getting off lightly if you don't scream and rage. Your controlled solemnity will be more impressive than wild anger and passion.
Don't ignore your health:
You may not feel like eating, exercising or even taking your medication. But pull yourself together and keep to your routine. This effort at normalcy, will spare your children a lot of fear and confusion, and also help you think straight. Major life events - and finding out that your husband has been unfaithful qualifies as one! - can raise your stress levels and blood pressure, setting the stage for heart disease.
The level of danger posed by your body's dramatic response to tension depends on how quickly you recover and this depends on how quickly you bring down your tension levels by taking care of your health.
Keep yourself busy and don't allow yourself to brood:
When our world is shattered, we sink into depression and when we are depressed, our energy levels touch rock bottom and we don't feel like doing anything. But slipping into despondency isn't going to help. You will be able to present a normal front to your children and also think clearly, if you are not too dejected.
This will happen if you keep busy and don't brood. This doesn't mean that you mustn't think. Thinking is different from brooding. When we brood, we resentfully concentrate on negative points and go over them again and again, like a record stuck in a groove.
But "thinking" is to consider all sides of a matter, coolly. Brooding won't help you, but thinking will.
Use the support system of your friends:
This is the time you really need people who are completely for you, whose eyes will fill up when yours do and whose loyalty you needn't waste time doubting - but who will not mince words, when telling you where you went wrong either.
The wonderful thing about friends is that you needn't be on your best behaviour with them. You needn't worry about what they will think of you either. In their company, you can weep, tell them things about your marriage that you wouldn't dream of telling anyone else in the world, and you needn't worry about how you look or sound either.
And you can even bring out the demons that have been tormenting you and ask them if they think that you might have weakened your marriage or even driven him into another woman's arms through your suspiciousness, all the weight you have put on, your nagging ways, a lack of interest in sex, etc.
In other words, with friends, you can let off steam, knowing that there will be no repercussions, knowing that these people are on your side. The unstinting support we get from friends increases our self-confidence and sense of self-worth. Talking things over freely and frankly also helps us get things into perspective so that we can decide what we are going to do.
Spend time with the family:
The support, sense of wellbeing and love we get from our family is different from the support system provided by our friends. The love and acceptance we get from our relatives is unquestioning and all-encompassing, but at least initially, we should not talk to family members about hubby's infidelity, as we talk about it to friends. However, we need our family at this critical juncture of our lives. Spending time with close family will definitely help us think clearly about future actions.
Don't let the children suffer: "If I ever find out that Mark has been unfaithful to me, I'll tell the children and turn them against him!" my young friend Christina told me, her voice full of passion even as she imagined the scenario. Christina loved her husband deeply, but always felt unsure of him because he was very handsome and worked in TV serials.
But though I understood that it was Christina's passionate love for Mark that made her talk like this, I knew that what she planned was very wrong. Yes, she would get back at her husband if she did what she threatened, but did she realise what she would do to her children, I wondered. Children love and need both their parents and to turn them against one of them will shake their confidence in the world and in themselves. It will make them feel abandoned and unsure of themselves, perhaps for all their days.
Once we have children, we can no longer live for ourselves. We also have to live for them. So, even if we are very angry with our spouse, we cannot let our children suffer. So, never talk against your husband, to your kids. Try to ensure that they can continue to love and respect him and that they do not have to suffer divided loyalties. If the need arises, you can tell them when they grow up.
Decide what you will do after cool thought and after discussion with your husband:
The situation you are in, isn't one that you can ignore. You have to decide how you will deal with it and what you will do. Can you forgive him? Will you continue to live with him because you have no alternative?
Do you need to be away from him for some time? Do you want to end your marriage?
Only your husband and you can decide how your marriage has been affected and whether it can survive. That depends to a great extent on the relationship you have with your husband - how much you love each other, what drove him to have the affair, and whether you can regain mutual trust, respect, confidence and love after he has betrayed your marriage. If your love for each other is strong enough, you will be ready to forgive and try to forget and he will be ready to try and make it up to you - for the rest of his life. No one can tell you what you should do because no one else can really understand how deep the wound in your heart is. But there is one thing. If you have children, you must do whatever is best for them.
Here are the most common signs of a cheating husband or the signs to know if your spouse is cheating on you and tips to help you in dealing with the signs of a cheating spouse and infidelity
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Here are the most common signs of a cheating husband or the signs to know if your spouse is cheating on you and tips to help you in dealing with the cheating partner and infidelity
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