These are usually the most visible signs of infidelity.
The cheating spouse’s physical appearance will change, they know it has to. A spouse having an affair (or even thinking about having one) will want to make themselves more attractive. They will begin to dress smarter, their appearance will alter in some way. Be alert for new clothes, new aftershave/perfume and their personal hygiene.
If they suddenly has a personal makeover there is a good chance they're trying to impress someone, that someone may not be you!
A cheating spouses conversation and mannerisms will change. Listen carefully to what your spouse chooses or refuses to talk about. Usually their conversations would include the same places and people, after all we are creatures of habit. Suddenly they start talking of new places and people using very different tones in their voice and mannerisms.
The cheating spouse will definitely use work as an excuse. Obviously, one of the main excuses to meet with someone, is work. Here are a few of the most common work related excuses, ‘I have a meeting tonight, so I’ll be back late, don’t wait up’. ‘I have a weekend training seminar to go to, I don’t really want to go, but I guess I’ll have to’. So look for definite changes in their work habits, as the affair progresses the time away with work will increase.
A cheating spouse will spend, spend, spend! So watch carefully, they will say the money is for business lunches, gifts for company sales reps, employees, etc. Remember, when a spouse is cheating, they will come up with many weird and wonderful excuses. It doesn’t matter how careful the cheating spouse is, the financial cost will eventually have an effect on the majority of families.
The cheating spouse will relate to the family differently. The way he or she communicates with you will change, suddenly the little things that used to bother them, no longer do. An example could be, kids making a noise when they come in from work, used to annoy them, but suddenly they smile and make a pleasant comment about the kids. This is a sign that their mind is on something else, something that they find very pleasant. They suddenly have more patience, he or she used to get annoyed about the small things, suddenly they do not seem bothered.
Steven
